A free guide to help you decide when a conflict is worth facing.

I think of every conflict as a choice point: face it, or let it go. Neither is automatically the right call.

This guide walks you through the questions I return to when I'm deciding whether to face a conflict — with someone or with a group.

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Knowing when and how to face conflict well is a skill you can get better at.

Inspired by my Art of Fighting principles, this guide walks you through the questions I return to when I'm deciding — or helping a client or a friend decide — whether a conflict is worth facing.

You don't need every answer to be a "yes" to know it's worth facing. You're the best judge of what your relationship or group needs.

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This guide walks you through:

  1. Naming the conflict

  2. Checking your relational longing

  3. Remembering that not every conflict needs facing

  4. The questions to ask before deciding

  5. Getting clear on where you land