Conflict & Healthy Heat
TOOLS
We’re taught that good groups don’t fight. But healthy groups can’t survive on love alone, they need to be able to hold heat together, too. This is where you’ll find real tools to identify disputes, lay out how to address them, and figure out what to do if they’re insurmountable.
ARTICLES
Do I stay or do I go?
A list of questions to navigate conflict
Podcasts & Articles
Is Your Social Life Missing Something? This Conversation Is for You.
Priya joins Ezra Klein to talk about why so many of us feel lonely even when we're busy, and what actually helps.
Why Avoiding a Fight is Killing Your Relationship (and How to Fight Well) | Priya Parker
Priya Parker comes back to argue that the fights you're avoiding aren't threatening your closest relationships; they're the only thing that can save them.
WSJ: The Conflict Resolution Expert Who Thinks We All Need to Fight More
Author Priya Parker argues that we need to fight smarter and more often if we want to get along and get ahead.
NYT: The Interview: An Expert on Conflict Says Your Relationships Are Doomed Without It
Priya on why toxic politeness at work is worse than conflict, and how to actually apologize.
DOWNLOADABLE RESOURCES
The New Rules of Gathering Guide
A free guide to unlock new and creative ways to transform your next event. Learn how to infuse meaning and connection when planning for any occasion.
Virtual Meeting Guide: Work Edition
A free guide to designing an effective and enjoyable virtual meeting. Seven simple ways to inject connection and meaning into virtual workplace meetings.
The Art of Fighting: The Transforming Power of Conflict
NEW BOOKWe say we want community, but most of us were never taught the one skill that actually holds a group together: how to fight well. The Art of Fighting shows you how.
Out September 8, 2026